Monday, February 1, 2010
John Terry, Unfaithful Footballers & Philandering in General
So once again an international sport star is gracing the front pages of the tabloids instead of the back. Once again his appendage has got him into trouble. Another wife with small children left stunned, trying to pick up the pieces of her shattered life. No doubt with the added pressure of the world’s gutter press on her doorstep. This time however it was different, John Terry hadn’t just shagged a couple of slappers looking for a quick kiss and tell story, no he’d already been there before and bought that particular t-shirt. This time he’d committed the mortal sin of shagging his best mate’s girlfriend. Bad? Yeah, but let’s put a cherry on top of this and make it a fellow England player.
John Terry is not the first England footballer to play away from home in the marital sense nor, I doubt will he be the last. Who can forget the story of Wayne Rooney and his penchant for older, much older, ladies of the night? He isn’t even the first England captain to be caught with his trousers down, David Beckham beat him to that with his fling with a future masturbator of pigs, sorry I forget her name and she doesn’t seem worthy of my time to google her. Ashley Cole, already unpopular in footballing circles for being a mercenary when he decided that Arsenal weren’t paying him enough and hot footed it over to Chelsea for a more appropriate salary, managed to make himself the most hated bloke in Britain for daring to cheat on the lovely Cheryl Cole. Man alive even Darren Byfield, a longtime journeyman of a footballer who now plays with lowly Walsall, cheated on his gorgeous and successful wife Jamelia whilst they were engaged.
Now the outcome of Terry’s indiscretions are yet to be decided both in terms of his marriage and whether he should continue to wear the Captain’s armband for the forthcoming World Cup in South Africa. I can’t help feeling that he will be absolved both by his wife and Fabio Capello (the England Manager). I am not going to debate on here whether he should or shouldn’t carry on being the England skipper, although I personally think the rest of the England Squad should decide whether they feel he can lead them on the pitch and not the tabloids.
What I want to talk about is the probably forgiveness of his wife. Because that’s what they all do isn't it. Why? Are their lifestyles so good that they can overlook such behaviour? They can’t be blind to it, I don’t buy that for a minute. If your husband is going to fashionable nightclubs on a Saturday night without you, chances are he’s going to be targeted by girls who just want to fulfil their desperate desire to be a WAG, even if it’s just for a night. At some point they are probably going to succumb. If they really weren’t that type of man then they would be at home putting the kids to bed or taking their wives out to a nice restaurant. It seems that it’s OK for them to publicly humiliate the wives, to disrespect them and their children for a few hours of fun with a blonde with fake boobs and a less than hidden agenda.
Back in the normal world, where our menfolk are unlikely to be the target of such ferocious women, what if the unthinkable happens? What would you or I do? Could you forgive a one night stand? An affair? What circumstances would allow you to work at the marriage and give it another go? For me personally I think that if a man is the type to have a one night stand then it will never be a one off occurrence. That he is probably a philanderer and a ladies man and not a lot will change that, so one strike and you’re out. An affair however, that’s a different story, it would depend ultimately on who it was with, the closer the person to me the less likely I would be able to get over it. Affairs are more complicated, I would wonder if I had done something to push my OH towards another woman. Even if I hadn’t, affairs are about genuine feelings and emotions and not just sex, it’s not that straightforward and I could maybe see me at least trying to work at my marriage if the affair had ended.
Back to world of the stupid, rich & famous, I hope Toni does divorce John and take him to the cleaners, maybe then a lesson will have been learned, wives might be less tolerant and footballers less inclined to behave so bloody badly. I doubt it though.